President Barack Obama and Vice President Joe Biden join with Eli Manning, Jeremy Lin, Jimmy Rollins, Evan Longoria, David Beckham, Joe Torre and Andy Katz in this PSA to raise awareness about dating violence. Despite the significant progress made in reducing violence against women, young women continue to face the highest rates of dating violence and sexual assault. In the last year, one in 10 teens has reported being physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend. One in five young women has been sexually assaulted while in college. In response to these alarming statistics, Vice President Biden launched the 1is2many campaign last year. This campaign focuses his longstanding commitment to reducing violence against women specifically on teens and young women ages 16-24. By targeting the importance of changing attitudes that lead to violence, and educating the public on the realities of abuse, this Administration is leading the way to stop violence against women before it begins.
Every year domestic violence takes a terrible toll in Utah, 2011 was no exception. There have been thirty-three domestic violence-related deaths. An epidemic of murder suicides emerges in Utah in 2011, leaving families, friends, neighbors and communities devastated. Nineteen of the total deaths were a result of nine perpetrators taking the lives of ten victims before killing themselves.
Communication is an indispensable part of any healthy relationship. Good communication includes listening, taking time to have a conversation, respecting others’ opinions even when you disagree, and being honest, open and understanding. Good communication is respectful and does not include yelling, blaming, threats, demands, name calling, or threatening suicide if your partner leaves. These are examples of verbal abuse.
September 2010 The Utah Domestic Violence Council (UDVC) is recognized nationally as the state domestic violence coalition in Utah. The council’s mission is to create a state where domestic violence is intolerable. Domestic violence crosses all socioeconomic and cultural lines. For decades, domestic violence service providers have worked diligently to empower victims in Utah by educating them to obey the law and trust the system with their personal information. Therefore, UDVC responds to the names and social security numbers of immigrants released by two former employees of the Utah Department of Workforce Services (DWS). UDVC appreciates the actions taken by DWS including holding a dialogue with community groups, plans to hold seminars on access to services in local communities, and responding quickly regarding the actions of involved employees.
Issued by Stewart Ralphs, Chair of the Utah Domestic Violence Council (UDVC)
Our deepest condolences go out to the family and friends of Lori Hacking. Lori Hacking’s tragic disappearance July 19, 2004 and the subsequent arrest of her husband Mark Hacking are grim reminders that domestic violence is a problem that still needs to be addressed in our homes and communities in Utah.
Although the circumstances in this particular case may differ from physical abuse and threats of violence that are usually associated with domestic violence, the murder of a spouse is a domestic violence crime. The Utah Domestic Violence Council1 is saddened that yet another Utah woman has allegedly lost her life to violence by her intimate partner in the sanctity of her home.
Domestic violence is not limited to physical violence—it takes on many forms, including physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, spiritual and psychological abuse by an intimate partner. The main factor in domestic violence relationships is one partner using power and control over the other. Control of information, lies and betrayal of trust can contribute to domestic violence. From the information available in the Hacking case, controlling information and an elaborate pattern of deception and lies may have led to alleged physical violence in the form of murder.
The allegations in the Hacking case illustrate that domestic violence can take different forms with the same tragic results and affects all sectors and demographics of the state. Many may be surprised to learn that Lori Hacking’s situation could be statistically similar to many victims of domestic violence in Utah—female, married and living with her spouse, employed with a high school diploma and under age 40. In 1994–1999, according to the Department of Health’s intimate partner violence death review team report:
- Nearly 50% of the 131 female homicides in Utah were perpetrated by an intimate partner (e.g., husband, ex-husband, boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend)
- 76.6% were killed in their own residence
- 93.8% of the victims were white or Hispanic
- 50% of the victims were living with their partner
- 73% were under age 40
- 70.4% had at least a high school diploma2
Each year approximately one-third of all homicides are domestic-violence related.3
Domestic violence is a grossly underreported crime. A study conducted by the Utah Commission of Criminal and Juvenile Justice in January 2002 found that only 13 percent
of domestic violence victims reported attacks by their intimate partners.
Domestic violence warrants a community-wide response. The Utah Domestic Violence
Council knows that only with education about domestic violence and working together as
members of a community can we prevent these tragedies from continuing to happen in
Utah. We as a community need to be aware the following:
- To the victims — You are not alone.
- To the family and friends — You can help.
- To the abusers — You will be held accountable.
- To the community — We must work together to protect our families from harm
If you or someone you know needs more information about domestic violence, call the Utah domestic violence resource line at 1 (800) 897-LINK (5465). For more information about the Utah Domestic Violence Council call Judy Kasten Bell, Executive Director, at (801) 521-5544 or Stewart Ralphs, Chair, at (801) 578-1213.
2 Intimate Partner Homicide in Utah 1994–1999, Utah Department of Health,